Have you ever gone for a whole day or week without once looking into the eyes of the people you love? You know how it is – life is busy and full of stuff. Too much activity, coupled with minor (or major) resentments, and you can end up with long periods of avoiding looking into the soul of someone you care for. It’s that neglect which allows for relationship breakdown in a myriad of unseen ways. It is said that the eyes are the windows of the soul, and there’s a reason for th

Recently I had coffee with a friend. We talked, as we usually do, about everything under the sun. Eventually the conversation turned to why we feel like we so often do. What is it that causes emotions like fear, anxiety, resentment, pride, rejection, anger, depression and self pity to surface unbidden and unwanted, especially at key times when we really need all our wits to operate in a good way? My friend has a theory and it’s one I subscribe to myself. Let me explain it to