Recently I had coffee with a friend. We talked, as we usually do, about everything under the sun. Eventually the conversation turned to why we feel like we so often do. What is it that causes emotions like fear, anxiety, resentment, pride, rejection, anger, depression and self pity to surface unbidden and unwanted, especially at key times when we really need all our wits to operate in a good way? My friend has a theory and it’s one I subscribe to myself. Let me explain it to